How many of the following statements would you agree with?
- Most marriages start with a burst of joy that slowly fizzles out
- The thrill of winning the lottery would wear off after a while
- A larger salary wouldn’t make me much happier
- Losing weight would only make life better temporarily
- I have many possessions that I once thought were beautiful but don’t now
- Most people stop noticing their partner’s good looks
- I could achieve my dreams and still find I’m dissatisfied
- There’s nothing as exciting as a new relationship
If you answered Yes to more than two or three of these you may suffer from hedonic adaptation.
But, to be honest, most of us do.
Hedonic adaptation is simply when happiness wears off (cue Texas singing The thrill has gone). The way the excitement of that top job, windfall or new car fades with time.
Even winning the lottery produces only short-term ecstasy, for lottery winners are no happier 18 months after their win than non-winners. And I suspect there are many readers of this blog who have stuff in their wardrobes that they once thought was to-die-for that they now wouldn’t be seen dead in.
But, to be honest, most of us do.
Hedonic adaptation is simply when happiness wears off (cue Texas singing The thrill has gone). The way the excitement of that top job, windfall or new car fades with time.
Even winning the lottery produces only short-term ecstasy, for lottery winners are no happier 18 months after their win than non-winners. And I suspect there are many readers of this blog who have stuff in their wardrobes that they once thought was to-die-for that they now wouldn’t be seen dead in.
Hedonic adaptation explains the tide of over-consumption
that modern society is caught up in. If we didn’t ‘go off’ things, if last
year’s handbag or winter coat thrilled us as much today as when we
bought it, we wouldn’t be drooling over this year’s model. The exhilaration of
acquisition gives buyers such a buzz that, like shopping junkies, they seek it out again and again.
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| How did I ever love this lot? |
We all know we should be content with less. We know that twenty pairs of shoes is more than enough for any bipedal creature. But the pull of the mall does, as I said in an earlier blog, threaten to make
shopping zombies of us all.
How can we stop this adaptation and prolong the pleasure of
our purchases, or our priveleges? What can the field of fashion psychology tell us? Research about to be published in the Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin
points to two key ways. Appreciation and
variety. In their hedonic adaptation prevention model the authors say:
Appreciation:
Stop and appreciate every day what you have and you might be able to eek more excitement
from it.
Variety:
Use it in different ways, to create more varied experiences, and the bliss
could persist.
Why? Because the brain habituates over time that we get
bored with things*. The brain loves novelty and surprises, which is why the
mantra I swear by, Do Something Different, is
once again of huge relevance here.
How? Here are my tips for preventing hedonic adaption and
keeping the thrill alive:
- Move stuff around so you continue to notice it.
- Re-position your art or objects of desire in the home every so often so they have new impact.
- Store winter clothes away in summer, and vice versa, and experience the newness of them when you get them out again months later.
- Ditto with young kids’ toys. Divide them into four storage containers. Let them play with one set at a time while the others are hidden. Rotate on a weekly or monthly basis.
- Better still, stop buying toys and use a toy library or swap with friends. Babies habituate very quickly to stuff and love more novelty than even the most indulgent parent can afford.
- Keep an appreciation or gratitude journal. This trick, from positive psychology, keeps reminding you of the good stuff in your life. It's shown to boost happiness as well as curbing the urge to go and buy more stuff.
- Get excitement from experiences rather than from purchases. The effects are known to last longer and be more fulfilling. Very relevant at Christmas.
- Use your old stuff in new ways, learn how to restyle your old clothes or swap with friends.
- Rent, rather than buy, an outfit for a special occasion.
- Do something different as often as possible in your life. You’ll come to see that it’s all about what you do, not what you have.
· * From the paper by Sheldon et al,
University of Missouri:
"By definition,
adaptation occurs only in response to constant or repeated stimuli, not to
dynamically varying ones. Thoughts and behaviors that are varied and unexpected
or surprising appear to be innately stimulating and rewarding. Stated
differently, after an individual completely understands and expects the
experiences that a change produces, the experiences will no longer have the
same emotional impact and he or she will drift back towards his or her initial
wellbeing. Maintaining the variability and surprises inherent in the
experiences and in the emotions forestalls this process… One applied
implication of this view is that many people cope with their HA to their prior purchases and
acquisitions by overconsuming and overspending. However, if they can continue to
derive pleasure from what they already have, in part from varied experiences of those
possessions, then they can resist increasing aspirations for even more."
The Challenge of Staying Happier:
Testing the Hedonic Adaptation Prevention (HAP) Model
Kennon M. Sheldon, University of Missouri & Sonja Lyubomirsky, University of California, Riverside
in press, Personality and Social Psychology Bulletin
